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Peter,
You once visited here and as you return, please hear my message loud and clear.
Statistics
Two in 5 women (39%) have experienced violence since the age of 15.
Men are more commonly the perpetrators of physical violence, sexual harassment and sexual violence.
One in 3 women (31%) has experienced physical violence since the age of 15.
One in 5 women (22%) has experienced sexual violence since the age of 15.
One in 2 women (53%) has experienced sexual harassment in their lifetime.
Women who have experienced violence are more likely to experience multiple incidents of violence.
To Be Clear
I should have been able to engage with you as a business owner as part of a business transaction without it turning into a situation involving sexual or personal advances.
Identifying as a single mother is not an invitation for a sexual or personal advance.
When you, as a business owner, began researching me online and sending correspondence via my personal website, that feels extremely inappropriate and unsafe.
When you, as a business owner, send me a song via Whatsapp, that feels extremely inappropriate and unsafe.
When you, as a business owner, respond to a courtesy message of me running late by referencing the great anticipation you were feeling for my arrival, that made me feel extremely unsafe as a woman and as a customer.
As a customer and guest of you, as an accommodation provider, I have the right to decline an invitation for a shared drink on arrival.
When I, as a customer, decline a shared drink with you, as a business owner, it is not appropriate to then bring that drink in anyway and attempt it again.
I, as a customer, have the right to gift a thank you present to an accommodation provider who has given me a discount, without being asked for a hug in return.
It is inappropriate for you as an accommodation provider to invite me, a guest at your accommodation, to share time together at a yoga class, particularly following many mentions of the intention being for a quiet weekend away from people.
When a woman feels so unsafe staying in accommodation that you, as a business owner, have provided due to all the above points that she drives home in the middle of the night in dangerous conditions, that is something really serious.
It is extremely inappropriate and offensive for you as a business owner to suggest that I hold responsibility in feeling I had no choice but to leave, by suggesting that I need to say no quicker/better/more clearly.
It is deeply concerning that when my partner followed up with you relating to this situation you told him that I would have more chance of a refund if I got on a Zoom call with you, despite being told that I was feeling unsafe and didn’t want to speak with you further.
It is not okay for you to be emailing me directly with a Zoom link despite my partner making it clear that I didn’t want to receive any further direct contact from you.
It is not okay for you to suggest that this will be an opportunity for personal growth for me, or for you to make comments regarding my partner standing up for me enough. That is entirely inappropriate in your role as a business owner to me as a customer.
You implied to my partner that I wasn’t strong enough with my boundaries yet if you read through this you will see repeated examples of when I put forward boundaries and they were ignored.
Absolutely all of this could have been avoided if you simply stood by your obligations, as a business owner, and provided me with safe and private accommodation. The rest of this situation all came down to you developing an interest in a personal connection, me having no idea how to handle that and trying to carry on and enjoy my accommodation as booked. Ultimately, your continued contact and advances created an extremely unsafe and uncomfortable situation that resulted in me not able to stay even a single night in the accommodation I had booked.
A man providing accommodation to single women on a secluded property needs to have awareness of how dangerous behaving in this way is for a woman experiencing it.
You have not heard from me properly, until now. I ask you now directly to do the right thing and refund the full 100% of my money paid, as I did not receive what I booked - the accommodation was not safe nor private.
Diana Fisk
BSB: 193-879
ACC: 490 448 704
Amount: $1,000 for accommodation, $15 for reimbursement of wood chips.
Please respect my wishes that I do not wish for you to contact me further.